I wrote this post as a follow-up to the one mom wrote in March, titled, “Just Say No: Why Discipline Is Necessary.” I think this is something that is important to get both a mother and a daughter’s perspective on.
As a young kid, I did not like getting in trouble. I did not like that there were consequences to my actions. I did not like that my parents had “soooo manyyyy rulessss.” I did not like that I was not allowed to do whatever I wanted. I did not like that I was disciplined if I broke their rules or disobeyed and did something they told me not to do.
At a very young age, I did not understand why my parents did what they did. Much of the time I did not think what I was doing required a consequence. I mean, seriously, was it really that big of a deal that I pushed my brother when he didn’t give me my toy back? Or that I cleaned my room with a bad attitude and an angry heart?
The answer is yes.
It IS a big deal.
If my parents had not given me consequences for my actions and disciplined me, I would be living in a world of hurt and frustration as an adult.
The bottom line: Life will not always go my way. I won’t always get what I want. By disciplining me, my parents prepared me well for the real world.
A world where, YES, you do have to listen to your boss and do what you are told.
A world where you have to obey laws or you will suffer consequences ranging from fines and tickets to jail time.
A world where “mommy and daddy” won’t be around to solve your problems for you. (Harsh, but it’s true.)
By disciplining me, my parents taught me how to handle situations and respond in a godly way. At a young age I could not see the big picture or what they were preparing me for, but as an adult, I am so grateful that there were always consequences to my actions.
I am also grateful that my parents made it clear that they disciplined me and gave me consequences because they loved me. I remember grumbling to myself things like, “If they loved me they wouldn’t punish me.”
Oh but how far this is from the truth.
As someone who was disciplined by loving, caring parents, I am able to see that this is also how God relates to us. And as someone who survived the discipline, I can say and mean it with everything in me, THANK YOU for showing me there are consequences to my actions. Thank you for disciplining me.