My mom is a beautiful human being.
My dad always said that my mom had the hardest job: he went to work every day; she stayed home with us five kids. There are so many situations that she handled with so much grace… If the roles had been reversed and I was her, I probably would have been pulling my hair out!
My mom did so much and I know that we took her for granted. So, mom, in an effort to try and make up for all of those nights that we woke you up because we didn’t feel good, or talked a little too loudly during the few minutes you were able to rest, I want to say thank you for a few things. A few things that I know I’ve never told you and never thanked you for that I don’t want to go another minute without mentioning.
Thank you for disciplining me.
Wait, what? Yep, you heard me right. I’ll bet you never thought you’d hear those words from me! I know you never enjoyed having to discipline us kids, but by obeying God in this way and it may be safe to say, doing the harder thing, you have made my life easier.
It is easier for me to listen to a boss and do what I’m told.
It is easier for me to listen to correction and apply it to my life when and where it is necessary.
It is easier for me to see what being obedient to the Lord looks like in disciplining your children and how He relates to us as in this very same way.
It is easier for me to see the difference between disciplined and undisciplined children and what it looks like as they grow up.
It is easier for me to understand why it will be necessary to discipline my own children someday.
You always made it clear that you disciplined and corrected us because you loved us. Because of this, I knew you never disciplined us out of anger or frustration, but instead because you loved us enough to not want us to repeat our actions. I want to thank you for making that very clear to us.
Side note: I will say, it is not always easy to take correction, especially now as an adult, but you taught me how necessary it is and important to becoming more like Christ.
Thank you for allowing me to make mistakes and for making me fix them on my own.
This is one of those things that I hated at the time, but appreciate now.
Looking back, I am so grateful you did not fix my problems and mistakes for me. I would have some major struggles in my adult life if you had not taught me to swallow my pride, admit that I am wrong and say, “I’m sorry”, “I made a mistake” and “Will you please forgive me?”
NONE of those things are easy to say, but you set an excellent example for me and said those things yourself. You did the right thing and fixed what you needed to whether the person deserved it or not, whether you were wrong or not. What a beautiful example you set for me in this way.
So often, parents step in, fix their children’s problems and blame everyone else but their child. You never did this. You were able to think and react objectively, and best of all, you gave us godly advice in the middle of these problems. I will forever be grateful for this.
Thank you for setting boundaries and giving me rules to follow.
When I was younger I sure wished you would let me do whatever I wanted. Looking back now, I am so grateful you put rules in place. I am also grateful you never budged on them.
I appreciated that little voice in my head that would say, “Mom would not approve of me doing this or that. Is it God-honoring? I don’t want to do it and fill my mind with it if not.” This happened in many different circumstances and situations and for that I am so grateful. Your rules gave me the boldness to speak up when I knew something was going to potentially go on that would not be pleasing to the Lord. You made it clear that we should never let people make us feel bad for not doing something we knew was wrong. I thank you for that.
Thank you for teaching me it’s okay to act, look and be different than the crowd.
During my teen years, you helped me realize that it is okay to be different from the crowd.
If “being normal” made me look like the world, you showed me the beauty in being different.
You showed me the importance of viewing myself as a “Daughter of the King” and the importance of acting like it, rather than looking and acting like the world. I’ll tell you what, this was so difficult when the world made it seem like it was best to wear the latest (and trashiest) in fashion, to watch the newest (and very inappropriate) movies and to sing the latest hits (and most vile) in music. As a teenage girl that just wanted to fit in, I quickly learned that I most definitely did not want to.
Different was best.
Thank you for showing me the beauty in being a Proverbs 31 woman.
(I feel like this is especially important in a world that is very touchy about the definition of a woman, wife and mother.)
Here are a few things I watched you do from a very young age. I don’t know that you knew I noticed these things that you did (and so many more), but I did and I am so grateful for your example.
You woke up early every morning to spend time praying and reading your Bible before all of us kids woke up.
You cleaned the house without a complaint.
Not only did you clean the house, but you whistled or sang while you did it. It was contagious.
You did countless loads of laundry every week (and sometimes every day).
You ran all of us around for appointments, lessons and practices.
You fixed dinner night after night, even after a long day when the last thing you wanted to do was be in the kitchen.
You spent hours planning our school year for us. You did everything from researching the best curriculum and books to use, to making charts and graphs to keep everything organized (and for EACH of us five kids).
You very clearly showed us you loved our dad.
You followed dad’s lead. Even if you thought maybe there was a different or better way of getting to the same result or end goal.
You made our home a place we all wanted to be.
You knew your job at home as our mom was more important than any job you could get paid for.
These are not things women aspire to be and do in our world today, especially when our culture has put such a negative spin on this concept. And yet you never let that change how you viewed being a mother and wife.
You are an incredible person. You have changed my life for the better, mom. I am more grateful for you than you will ever know.